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Breaking up isn’t just for romance. Breaking up happens every day in a variety of forms. Whenever you are in a relationship with someone or something, parting ways is a break up. The most interesting part of this is that sometimes, you may find you are breaking up with yourself. Groundbreaking. Here are ways you can successfully break up.
Mediation
Whether it’s a divorce, a family matter, or a business break up, mediation is always the way to go. According to Natalie Chase, mediation can “resolve disputes prior to spending thousands of dollars in court.” Mediation has all parties sit down and discuss what is going on and what each person wants to see in the way of a resolution or restitution. This is a peaceful way to get everyone on the same page and speaking in a civilized manner.
Attorneys can be present to help discuss the legality of a lot that is being said, and help navigate the legal waters.
Know Who You Are
In non-legal instances, romantic breakups can be hard. You spend a certain amount of time building a life, thinking about the future, and giving your heart to someone. When that is over, you can feel abandoned. When moving on and breaking up, when you know who you are the easier it will be for you to take that first step forward. Strength and resilience have helped many people bounce back fast, and when you know what you want out of life, leaving behind that which did not serve you feels like a blessing.
Don’t Hold On
Memories are great to have and they will be with you always, but holding on to something that isn’t yours anymore can be detrimental to your mental health. When you separate from a job or separate yourself from a business partnership, you may feel as if you still have a claim when you don’t. Many people who get demoted feel they are still in charge because they won’t let go of the fact that they are now serving a different part of the team.
Don’t hold on to what is no longer yours. Reestablish yourself in a new sphere where you can have what you want.
Don’t Cloud the Waters
When you make a break, make a clean break. Don’t faze yourself out if that is only going to cause confusion. If you surround your departure from a relationship, job, or partnership with a lot of “I don’t knows” then people aren’t going to know how to proceed. Make your break clean and start the process of heading in your own direction.
Practice Good Habits
If you’re breaking up with yourself, it’s because there is a habit or part of you that’s not working. And that is okay. Get healthy. Start practicing self-care and start putting your best foot forward. When you start to initiate new, healthy habits, a new, healthy you will emerge, and that is the person you want to be in a great relationship with.